yet another barrier to finding an “autistic girlfriend”
The problems that heterosexual autistic males have with involuntary celibacy is something that I’ve written about on Autism’s Gadfly from time to time as my regular readers know. It’s something you usually won’t hear about in any mainstream writings as the media wants to put a positive spin on this horrible disability and only promote success stories. So John Elder Robison, Stephen Shore, and Michael John Carley and the relatively few other men claiming to be on the spectrum who have been able to marry have their books publicized while those of us less fortunate are relegated to the throw away slush pile.
But it is something that definitely exists among a number of autistic males that I’ve encountered in person or on the internet over the years, myself included. I’ve written previously how I felt autism has given me the gift of prophecy in that I can predict the suggested solution to this problem. “find an autistic girlfriend” is the inevitable solution. the nearly 10:1 ratio of autistic men to women in the higher functioning range (on average from various published reports) is somehow not an obstacle according to these people who give these words from the wise.
Nor the fact that of the women claiming to be on the spectrum and promote the idea of “neurodiversity” may be undesirable for those of us who find this belief appalling. Nor the preference of any number of autistic women for “normal” men and the fact some of them are able to have a “normal” boyfriend or husband. However, I was interested to see that there has been a a new report recently published in the Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders showing that homosexuality and/or bisexuality may be more common in adolescent autistic women than in a control group of non-autistic women that were surveyed. Not only was there a higher rate of homosexuality and bisexuality, but a higher rate of uncertainty in attraction among the young autistic females surveyed.I have just read the abstract so far and not the entire study. It was available without being paywalled for a few days, but I’ve been fairly sick this past week (i’m still not whole but recovered enough to write this blog post) so was not able to read the whole study or blog about it until today and unfortunately it is now paywalled. Apparently there has been other research to suggest this too that I was not aware of, but they cite references for the interested reader.
Aside from the extremely high ratio of mildly autistic men to women and the preference the more desirable autistic women have for “normal” men, the lack of heterosexuality in autistic women is likely yet another barrier to “finding an autistic girlfriend”